Boundaries & Standards

 
 

JOURNAL EXPLORATION 

  • As a child what did you learn from your family, society, or both about boundaries in love, work, relationships including family/platonic, and with yourself?

  • Which of these boundaries serves you that you would like to continue to honor?

  • Where do you see a gap in how your boundaries were formed that is now causing you stress, fear, and for your energy to leak?

  • What boundaries are you dedicated to implementing and holding for you with yourself?

  • What boundaries are you dedicated to implementing and holding for you with your business or career?

  • What boundaries are you dedicated to implementing and holding with your clients and/or colleagues?

  • What boundaries are you dedicated to implementing and holding for you with with your partner or in your dating life?

  • What boundaries are you dedicated to implementing and holding with your family and friends?

  • If you are calling in a partner what are your no’s in terms of behavior or life circumstance that you have previously entertained?

HOMEWORK

  • If you feel at all triggered in exploring new boundaries/standards for life, and in holding them this is completely normal and human as the fear of abandonment, rejection, and scarcity mindset (ex there is no better partner I can have than this person) kicks in.  First please CELEBRATE that you are raising the damn bar for yourself, and honoring it!  This is how you actually rise in power to receive your desires.  Boundaries and magnetism are linked.  Second please ensure to continue to dive into the breathwork, meditations, and embodiment work.  You will calm down as you get back in your body. 

  • Practice feeling into your yeses and your nos through your body remembering your body has all the answers. 

  • Track the new boundaries you have set for yourself, that you find yourself holding, and look at how you feel afterward as you see the quality of your life improve.  Boundaries are bliss.

SACRED RAGE

It is also totally normal and fantastic if you start to anger or even rage come up when exploring your past and present with boundaries and the standards in your life. You may feel angry for how you allowed yourself to be treated, for how you treated yourself, for how others treated you or all of the above.

It is PERFECT to feel these feelings as unprocessed anger is mud in the cup of abundance and bliss, and unprocessed anger is huge for women. Society does not teach us (or men either) any form of healthy expression of anger, however anger is an emotion to be processed and felt and an embodied woman allows herself to process frustration and rage. So please celebrate feeling ALL of your feeling and now let’s focus on processing them so we can keep the energy moving.

ANGER RELEASE

LET.IT.OUT.  Scream into a pillow, like really scream like you've never screamed before, like you are releasing decades of unprocessed anger, rage, and frustration.  Punch the pillows and shout about what you’re angry about/who you’re angry about and what it’s meant in your life.  Past or present.  ANYTHING that comes up no matter how “awful” or “mean” you think it sounds is fab.  Wear yourself out like a toddler having a tantrum.  There is so much magic on the other side of this. DO NOT SKIP THIS, as the calm you feel afterwards and the increased peace in your body is divine.  Anger and frustration need to move.  Moving this energy creates space for receiving.  Think of this exercise as your goddess Kali rising.